Things Might Not Go According to (My) Plan

Sometimes I feel behind schedule in life.

My 10 year high school reunion is supposed to be in a few months, which we all know is about seeing where everyone has ended up. Did the jocks make it pro like they aspired? Did the cheerleader end up with the perfect life as we all expected? And..... how will I answer the questions "what have you done in the past 10 years?" I have plenty to say, about going to college and more so about moving to New York, but needless to say, I'm stumped on how to explain our current stage of life.

Considering how New Yorkers are known for fast talking and fast walking pace of life, they tend to put family and relationships after their career, getting that set up and established first. Many of our friends will not likely settle down until their early 30s due to education demands or career advances.

In contrast to now being one of those faster talkers/walkers, the country side of me feels behind schedule. It seems as though my friends in the country are on their 3rd or 4th baby, buying a house, or selling their first. We were the first to get married in our NYC group, but I'm sure many of our Pennsylvania guests have been tapping their watches.

And now, with this delay in a baby. I understand that we look like we're enjoying a comfortable lifestyle on purpose.

We're the perfect DINK (dual income no kids) couple. And, as the Wikipedia page describes (yes, DINK really is established, having it's own wiki page)...

It describes a high-earning couple who do not have children yet and are therefore able to afford a more expensive consumer lifestyle.

"When are you going to settle down and have kids?" we're asked even now, and immediately I feel like replying that we are working on it. Which is creepy, because it's telling people what goes on in the bedroom. I guess a better way to put it would be to say that we go on trips and out to dinner as a way to be a couple while we are childless. Or, we would rather sit at home and watch our child drool instead of going on vacation. Would rather host playdates at our house instead of game night/dinner parties. And, immediately following God and our relationship with each other, children are what we desire most.

But it's a hard thing to understand, not getting what you want when you want it. This is America, in the 21st century. Immediate gratification and if not..... how do we fix it? The belief that we will see our plans come into reality is such a modern day belief, we even try to find some reassurance that things will happen from scripture.

I'm sure everyone will be quoting Jeremiah 29:11:
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

And again... this was written to NOT telling you that God desires you to have an easy life. You have to take every verse in context. and this verse was written to Israelites in Babylonian captivity. Not you.

But there are verses to help me understand that things might NOT go according to my plan.
He tells me they are going to go by His plan, and that if I seek him first, and find shelter in his grace, I will be satisfied in any outcome.

Psalm 18:30
As for God, his way is perfect: The LORD's word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him.
Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

This is a hard thing to explain to the "when are you settling down and having children" crowd, but it's enough for me.

So tell me...
Have you ever gone to a reunion and encountered this?
And have you ever dealt with explaining infertility to others?
What did you say/do?

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